Over winter break I read the book The Alchemist for the first time and fell in love with the story and its message. I won’t go into too much detail because I highly recommend you uncover this gem for yourself, but its about discovering and pursuing our Personal Legends. Its an easy, breezy read and anyone who is passionate about finding their life’s purpose and living authentically would devour this read.
Reading The Alchemist inspired me to pursue the desires in my heart that I had always repressed or didn’t give myself permission to do in the past. Exploring new territory in life can be scary and make us want to run for the hills and hide. This week I have been experiencing a roller coaster of emotions because I started dating for the first time. I’m so happy that I’m finally putting myself out there with guys and feel comfortable enough in my skin to do so, but this fun learning experience has not been without pain and discomfort. The foreignness of it all has left me feeling simultaneously excited and anxious. There are moments when things are so thrilling and it makes you feel high, but there are also moments when the anxiety kicks in and it messes with your sleep schedule or ability to breathe normally for example. I know that it would be best for me to just go with the flow and surrender to the mystery of things, but that is much easier said than done:)
Whatever new territory you embark on, be it dating or some other experience, things can be rocky and uncomfortable at first. Even though you might experience the urge to avoid your new experience and clutch for safety, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t keep moving forward and lean into the discomfort. We all like to do things that make us feel comfortable and often dislike things when we’re put out of our comfort zone and pushed off our equilibrium. But the thing is that only when we step outside of our comfort zone do we have the opportunity to learn and grow. Yes, it might not be pretty in the beginning but it’s necessary if we want to continue developing our character and experience life to the fullest. So if you’re going through some newness in your life, I encourage you to hang in there because it does get better and you do get stronger.
P.S. Thank you Rachel, Chummy, Jules, and Jordyn for ALWAYS being there for me. I will love you girls more than any boy I date;)
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”