Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff. I was video-chatting with my parents and Ezra last night and my brother told me that his childhood friend, Chase, passed away after suffering a seizure. He was so young. Hearing about his passing touched me because it was a complete reality check. It’s fascinating to me how death can change your perspective; it makes you reflect on what’s really important in life and helps you see that the petty worries that consume our minds throughout the day are a complete waste of time. I guess that that’s the beauty or silver lining in grief or any kind of trauma…it streamlines Life and helps you see things clearly.
Grieving is a normal and inevitable cycle of life. Grief is often the result of experiencing a death, but it can also come from grieving a relationship, the loss of a job, an unfulfilled dream, a particular season in life, etc. In any case, leaning on your loved ones during times of grief is crucial. When my friend Annie passed away when I was in college, I also went to see a psychologist at my school to process my feelings and learn how to cope with grief. When she died, there were so many things on my heart that I wish I could have told her in person but since I couldn’t do that I would write to her in my journal as if we were having a conversation or just talk out loud, anything to still feel close to her. Everyone experiences grief differently, but the best advice I have for anyone who is grieving is to stay connected: with the present moment, with your loved ones, with yourself, with the person who has passed.
On Saturday I went to the Christmas market in Plaza Mayor with Renee. It was lovely to see all Christmas trinkets being sold and the lights and big tree in the square. Sunday, I went to a German Christmas market that was held at a German church. They had waffles, bratwurst, potato pancakes, wine, soup, cakes, and other delicious German foods. It was so cool and it made me think of my Oma:) It’s beginning to feel a lot like Christmas and it makes me so happy that Ezra and my parents will be here soon to spend Christmas with me.
I hope everyone has a wonderful week! Sending all my love and prayers to Chase and his loved ones.
Grief never ends…
But it changes.
It’s a passage,
Not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of weakness,
Nor a lack of faith…
It is the price of love.