Taking the Scenic Route

Hi Friends,

It’s been about three months since I’ve graduated college and boy has the post grad life been an adjustment. For those of you who don’t know me that well, I went to Sonoma State University and spent most of my time immersing myself in Sociology classes and grinding away on a tennis court.

I am thrilled to finally be doing something different in my life besides school and tennis, but there is A LOT of information that is not shared with students about the post grad life that I wish I would have known before I got out. The purpose of this platform is to share my experiences as I continue to navigate the elusive terrain of “The Real World”. I just really want a space where I can document my journey and honestly express my thoughts and ideas. And it would be great if other people could benefit from my story and find comfort and hope in my message. 

Unfortunately, no one really talks about this transition, amongst other very important topics, and frankly it needs to start happening in order for graduates to be physically and emotionally ready to excel in the next stage of life, commonly referred to as “The Real World”. In movies, you see the graduate celebrate graduation and then bam, they jump to being an established career man or woman and they have their own place and have the whole “adulting” routine down, paying bills, etc., the whole nine yards. But how did they go from graduating to being a well-adjusted and productive member of society? 

 I feel like the post grad life encompasses a lot of different emotions: joy, excitement, a sense of accomplishment, but also grief, fear of the unknown, self-doubt, existential angst, which is the side of the story that is untold in our society. I had this idea that I would graduate, get a 9-5 job, start grinding away at a desk job, and work my way up the corporate ladder. But I quickly realized that those ideas were more influenced by societal pressures rather than my own genuine interest.

And that is why tomorrow I will be getting on a flight to Madrid to begin my next adventure as an English Language and Cultural Assistant at a secondary school. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned since graduating is that you have to actively create what you want your life to be like. You don’t have to go straight into a 9-5 desk job if that’s not where your heart is at the moment. There are other options. You could work abroad, join the Peace Corps, take a gap year, the possibilities are endless, but you have to take the initiative to go after what you want and not get sucked into what society thinks is the right path for you. Be curious, be courageous, be brave, explore your passions, and stand firm in who you are and what you want. This is YOUR life, isn’t it time you started doing this journey on your own terms?




7 thoughts on “Taking the Scenic Route

  1. Ezra Zuidema

    Great first post Manders!

    I’m so excited for this journey you’re about to undertake. I hope you enjoy everything Spain and Europe have to offer! Take pictures, take siestas, take it all in! Can’t wait for your next post!

    Best Wishes,


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    1. Cyndi

      Great post Amanda! Post grad life can be overwhelming. It’s so great that you’re putting your thoughts out there and encouraging others to take time to seek out different experiences and explore non traditional paths. Enjoy this new chapter in your life! Xoxo



  2. Aunt Mel

    I am so excited to watch your adventures from afar, and am so happy for you and your exciting start in “The Real World.” Enjoy every moment and take it all in…I love you and am so proud of you!


  3. Polly

    Congrats Amanda in your journey. Well articulated. You are years ahead of your time. So much to unravel and explore into this adult life. This is such an exciting phase in your life. I wish the best. Have fun and be safe.


  4. Polly Constantinopla

    Congrats Amanda! Well articulated. This is such an exciting phase in your life. You are way ahead of your years and there is just so much promise in your journey in this so called “adult life”. Have fun in Madrid, be safe and God speed.


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