It’s been about three months since I’ve graduated college and boy has the post grad life been an adjustment. For those of you who don’t know me that well, I went to Sonoma State University and spent most of my time immersing myself in Sociology classes and grinding away on a tennis court.
I am thrilled to finally be doing something different in my life besides school and tennis, but there is A LOT of information that is not shared with students about the post grad life that I wish I would have known before I got out. The purpose of this platform is to share my experiences as I continue to navigate the elusive terrain of “The Real World”. I just really want a space where I can document my journey and honestly express my thoughts and ideas. And it would be great if other people could benefit from my story and find comfort and hope in my message.
Unfortunately, no one really talks about this transition, amongst other very important topics, and frankly it needs to start happening in order for graduates to be physically and emotionally ready to excel in the next stage of life, commonly referred to as “The Real World”. In movies, you see the graduate celebrate graduation and then bam, they jump to being an established career man or woman and they have their own place and have the whole “adulting” routine down, paying bills, etc., the whole nine yards. But how did they go from graduating to being a well-adjusted and productive member of society?
I feel like the post grad life encompasses a lot of different emotions: joy, excitement, a sense of accomplishment, but also grief, fear of the unknown, self-doubt, existential angst, which is the side of the story that is untold in our society. I had this idea that I would graduate, get a 9-5 job, start grinding away at a desk job, and work my way up the corporate ladder. But I quickly realized that those ideas were more influenced by societal pressures rather than my own genuine interest.
And that is why tomorrow I will be getting on a flight to Madrid to begin my next adventure as an English Language and Cultural Assistant at a secondary school. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned since graduating is that you have to actively create what you want your life to be like. You don’t have to go straight into a 9-5 desk job if that’s not where your heart is at the moment. There are other options. You could work abroad, join the Peace Corps, take a gap year, the possibilities are endless, but you have to take the initiative to go after what you want and not get sucked into what society thinks is the right path for you. Be curious, be courageous, be brave, explore your passions, and stand firm in who you are and what you want. This is YOUR life, isn’t it time you started doing this journey on your own terms?